You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink

For as long as I could remember, I have been a healer. The one everyone comes to when they need help, guidance or just someone to listen until they feel better. I try my hardest to be there, primarily knowing how grateful I would feel for someone to be there for me in my time of need and it makes me feel amazing. However, lately, understandably being the empath that I am, I have found that this task has brought on a lot more stress and anxiety than it has comfort from the ones I care about and knowing that they are okay. My opinions, advice and even my listening ear is constantly being met with opposition, a dry phone, company that is constantly “too busy” to hang out or blank stares from those losing interest in the opinion that they so eagerly wanted me to share.

I was starting to feel pretty bad. Was my advice shitty? Was I leading my friends/family in the wrong direction? Was what I had to share too raw? Was it too sugar coated? Perhaps I just needed a damn nap after taking on all that had been dumped on me and drained my spirit. Or maybe it was the idea that I had reiterated the same things over and over to the same people only for them to return with an expanded issue off of ignoring the initial advice I had given. Hey, no judgement here, you live and you learn at your own pace. I just love being there in anyway that I can.

I say all of this to say, if your like me and want everyone happy and squared away, don’t be upset or even blame yourself for the choices they make in their lives. Share your words, give what you feel is sufficient enough without giving all of you and if your advice is ignored, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF. It’s important to set boundaries and understand what is bringing toxicity in your life. Everyone else’s problems are not yours. Thanks for reading!

-Ash