Before we begin, and you read this post through and through, I would really appreciate you checking out Part 1 here: PSA: There are people out here that you don’t have to beg to love you – Part 1 I promise it’s a great read.
It seems everyone these days is trying to find the right people to surround themselves with or at our age, that one person to spend the rest of their lives with. Yet, all that I see are people following others around and trying to master their emotions, when truthfully, we have not taken enough time to master ourselves.
I used to fear losing connections with others until I started to realize it was so much harder trying to regain composure and normalcy after losing myself.
How to navigate those feelings of loneliness during the holiday season.
At 26 and 29, my husband and I do not want to admit it, but our 20’s are slipping faster and faster into those “Dirty 30’s” (he’s closer than I am haha!) but it has not been an easy road. We are that couple – the ones that most look at and wonder what the secret is or what we’re hiding and when we say we have known each other since we were fourteen, they imagine that the answer is time – yeahhhhhhhhh, NO. It has not always been an easy road.
Seriously – the older I get, the more it all starts to make sense. Friendships are not created equal and I cannot even begin to explain the toll that some of the most toxic ones have taken on me in the last few years. I have literally fell ill; physically, mentally and emotionally drained by people I genuinely care about because the title of being a friend made me feel I needed to be there at all costs, even if it meant I would suffer for it. I was completely wrong…
After a long military move and a few weeks off, I finally went back to work this week. Bittersweet because I know how much I enjoy working and miss the constant momentum but I also wish I had more free time to be with my son and husband – not to mention enough time to cook, clean, do laundry, find time for self-care and everything else I didn’t seem to think about all that much when I actually had the time to do it. I have always felt so conflicted when it comes to this topic because I envy the stay at home mom but the common misconceptions that they face are quite the match for mothers like myself who punch the clock daily.